Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Well, there is one thing to be said for all this trying to conceive.

And that is that we've gotten a lot of practice.

And practice, as they say, makes perfect.

This is quite possibly some of the best sex we've ever had. I think it's because there is truth to the idea that quantity helps. Back towards the end of our first year of marriage and during much of the second year, we didn't have a lot of sex. And honestly, that ended up being a source of anxiety for both of us, because neither of us wanted to bring it up and get shot down and feel rejected. And it put pressure on the sex we did have to be really good, since we weren't having sex very much.

Now that we are having regular sex even more frequently, it takes the pressure off. We are more experienced than we were, we've been together long enough to know what works well and quickly (depending on mood and time of course), and we know there will be another chance tomorrow or the next day whilst we try to conceive. So if tonight is only ok, that's not a problem - we can make tomorrow spectacular.

And it certainly has made us more affectionate in other ways, and more comfortable with both suggesting sex and turning each other down.

Don't get me wrong, I've complained about the sex before, and I will again. The sheer volume can be tiresome and overwhelming and no one enjoys feeling like they are doing a duty - which is often how we feel by the end of a long stretch.

But overall, I do thinks this is one area of our lives where things have in fact gotten better for us. And that's something. Now if you'll excuse me, I may have to take up smoking simply because tonight was that good.

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